LEARNING CURVE

Comparing life to a university is a popular metaphor, or analogy, that I have heard a lot.  I like it because it does illustrate the cyclical process of this life.  The constant need to incorporate new experiences and to master repetitive ones.

But I don't like it because "learning lessons" also implies taking tests, and then possibly failing those tests. 

There is no standardized grading system for this life.  This way of thinking can feed a pattern of punishment and guilt.  Failing the test, and having to repeat the "lesson".

Going to the same class, over and over again.  Putting a dunce cap on your head, and a big red F on your permanent record.

(To take the metaphor even further- you can change schools and still end up in the same class.  Perhaps in having the same relationship problems with the different partners, or chronic illnesses, etc.)

We are all unique and come to experience this world in deeply personal and subjective ways.  There is no such thing as a "test" or "failure".  Every moment is a success.  Whether the moment is painful or joyous, you are living it.

Experience every moment of your life fully, and appreciate it all equally.  With unpleasant experiences, learn what you don't like and how to identify it, so that you can avoid unpleasantness in the future.

But most of all, don't be hard on yourself.  Accept yourself and your life fully and unconditionally. Look at your own learning curve, and if the lesson seems exceptionally difficult or harsh, give yourself an A+.

Take some deep breaths and make some space to really work it through to a better condition for the future. Or to "pass" the class.

(I took algebra 3x before I could get a C passing grade.  And my homework took me a long time everyday. I had to really make time for it. )

However you view your life, whether as lessons or moments, I hope you will view it joyfully.  Not as a harsh lesson to be learned, with a ruler across the palm if you don't pass the "test".

What is an easy A to some is almost incomprehensible to others.  We are searching for the experiences that bring us the greatest satisfaction and joy.

Keep your learning curves flexible!
 
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